Happy Children’s Day to all the beautiful children of the world. I pray God blesses you all and helps you grow into responsible adults.
So lately, I have been reading a lot of books one of which is “Parenting Isn’t For Cowards” by James Dobson. I have learned so many lessons which I intend to share with you all very soon.
Today, I’d like to write very briefly on parenting in fear.
Fear is a normal and natural response to parenting. When we care about something, it becomes very easy to start worrying about losing it and this fear can very easily overcome us and take over our lives. However, despite it being “normal”, “natural” and “expected”, it sucks out the joys of parenting and also weighs the child down we love down. God never intended fear to be the driving force behind our parenting technique.
I used to be all about faith. In fact I gave myself that name “Faith” on Facebook. This was until I started having kids and became such a worrier: I would worry about everything to do with my son. Two incidences shook me to my core and made me realise that indeed, all power belongs to God and He loves my sons even more than I love them and will protect them:
(a) On Saturday evening, I came back home from some event with my husband and smelled something rather pungent right from the doorway. My son had been left at home with his nanny. Upon inspecting the house, I saw nothing strange, no electrical issue, nothing but I just could not let the smell be. I went to the kitchen to quickly do something and my dear friends, lo and behold, there was the gas cooker, left on!!!
I would later find out that the nanny had used the gas last almost 6 hours before we got home and the gas had been left on for that long!!! There is no point imagining what would have happened had she lit a match or turned on the microwave. I was not around but my God was and He shielded both my son and his nanny.
(b) My son’s chest was burnt by hot tea left lying around by a careless but loving nanny. His skin peeled off. He was just 1. She didn’t call me to ask what to do but somehow, she didn’t do anything silly to the site of the burn. Today, you won’t see a single scar on him.
I am learning each day to GENUINELY cast all my anxiety on Him because He cares for me and my seed.
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love and I also remind myself that Temi, God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and sound mind.
God wants us to enjoy the journey of parenting and we can’t enjoy what we do out of so much fear and anxiety! So dear parent, relax, God’s got your children, their His too, remember?
Happy Children’s Day.
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