My first ever Aristo offer/invitation to treat

Sometimes, the distinction between an offer and an invitation to treat gets blurred to me but maybe when I tell my tale, you’ll help me decide what exactly it was.

Ok, Bwari hasn’t beenhalf dreadful as I feared. The people here are cool and also, I didn’t nurse any lofty hopes of having fun so I pretty much am content with whatever snippets of fun I experience. The other day, a few friends and I decided to go to Abuja to see a movie and just chill. Somewhere in the lot, an old man pulls up in a big jeep (don’t know which make but it was big) and before I can say Caramel, a guy walks up to me telling me that Old Man is calling me, pointing at the jeep. I turn towards the direction of the vehicle and there he was giving me a 200 watt smile. I give him my best scowl in return and tell the messenger I am not interested.

Not quite 2 minutes after, the messenger returns with a wad of 1000 naira notes totaling about 20k from the look of it and a business card. I give him a stern look and tell him toleave me be. All the while, I was waiting for my friend. I watch him deliver the money back to Old Man, Old Man giving him about 5k and then shoving the card back at the messenger who comes trotting back towards me. This time, I do not wait for him to speak, I tell him, “if you keep disturbing me you won’t like what will happen to you” (like I could do anything). He briskly walks back to the jeep and hands the card back to Old Man who takes it and screeches away in evident anger.

Wow! I have seen this happen with Tonto Dike and Pete Edochie but seeing it happen live and to me was quite a different experience. I gisted my friend who told me its no big deal, this is Abuja, it happens every hour, nothing strange, in fact the strange thing in most people’s views would be my reaction. Interesting. That man was old enough to be my father. He wasn’t even scared. Wow. Wow. Wow!

Anyway that’s my story. To all the contract law gurus out there, was that an outright offer or an invitation treat?

Thats all folks,


*Here’s wishing all the Bar Finals takers the very best in their exams.*


  1. Wow!!! It‘s only in nollywood movies i‘ve seen that happen too. I like the way you reacted. If it was me i‘d have been so embarassed.. The old man does not even have shame..smh

    It‘s so sad that most people would see your reaction as strange.

  2. In Nigeria, those old men are just opportunistic, probably an invitation to treat. Get used to it happening more often if you intend to enter the work force. One thing is to practice how to turn them down without offense, it’s still a man’s world in naija and those moneyed old men are at the top of the pack in most things – corporate, politics, academics, etc. Play your response right and you will get a less offensive (to you) offer.

  3. OMG…Wow!!
    Funny enough..Had it been lagos I would just give the money to the nearest beggar. and walk away.. end of story…I would like to see the old man try and collect it from him/her.

  4. That was an outright offer with a middle man involved. That middle man failed as an agent, the old man failed as a possible aristo, and you passed as a well bred lady. Kudos to you, and Abuja is filled with such old skunks.

  5. Lol….the guy must have been so persistent because that tactic must have worked so well for him in the past.brace up dear cos more are coming.

  6. Hehehe, your friend was right temi, its an abuja thingy. Congratulations on passing that life test. Meanwhile, an invitation to treat comes b4 an offer. The vendor displays his goods for sale. That is an invitation to treat. When a potential buyer shows intention to buy, he makes an offer then if d vendor sells to him with the due consideration, that is acceptance. Hope it helps.

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